Confused about best friends intentions.?

Question by elisia231999: Confused about best friends intentions.?
My best friend “Mike” and I met 5 years ago when we joined the army. We’ve kept in contact on a daily basis even though he has left the military. We’ve been in an on/off (breaking up because of long-distance) relationship and intimate over the years. I feel like he is “the one” and this feeling gets stronger everyday. I don’t want to be in relationships with other guys or even feel the need to date. We have talked about marriage many times as well as buying a house together and he’s planning a trip for just the two of us to Turks and Caicos for my b-day (it’s supposed to be a surprise but a friend has let the cat out). Am I crazy to think that maybe he feels the same as I do? When I ask him where we are in our “relationship” he says “where do you want us to be?” I want to tell him that I love him and want to marry him, but I’m afraid that even though we’ve talked about that that’s all it is, just talk no action. Should I expect a proposal on my b-day or just a relaxing vacation?

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Answer by kelly k
definetly get married

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8 thoughts on “Confused about best friends intentions.?”

  1. only way to find out is to put yourself out there and hope for the best… That why its called falling in love because your jumping and hoping someone catches you… dont hold it back and do what your heart is telling you to do… good luck

  2. tell him how you feel if you guys have talked about it im sure he feels the same way its always better to let him know how you feel plus if you never tell him you may never get what you want and thats to marry him

  3. Personally, you will never know until you ask. I wouldn’t be completely blunt but just say that you want what you had back and either you will hear the answer you want or the one you don’t really one either way you will know and can either begin again or start something new. To me it sounds like he is just as nervous and unsure about the situation as you are. Someone needs to take the lead you can’t spend your whole life waiting for something that might not happen or spend it waiting and waiting and then happening and going damn we could have had this the entire time.

    Best of Luck

  4. If you’ll go on that vacation without any friends,and its his idea lol well I think he loves you as well 🙂 look how will he act there,and also you shouldn’t ever tell you want to have him as a friend at leats if you’re too afraid to tell him you love him 🙂

  5. I would say wait for a while and let his intentions be very clear to you before you do anything.It may take a while but you have to be sure of the person you want to marry.

  6. I think you need to be clear what do you want Mike to be a best friend or a lover. Although I believe that both can co-exist, if you know what you want.

    You can’t mess him around, make up your mind and tell him, lay your cards on the table, and if his heart is true he will reveal his true expectations. Go on holiday but don’t expect too much, as it may not happen

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